It may be your spouse, child, sibling, parent, another family member or a close friend. Regardless of who it is, if you have a loved one serving in the military, whether overseas or in another part of the US, the holidays can be an especially difficult time. Although you miss them every day, somehow during the holiday season you miss them even more. Maybe it’s because the holidays are a time of family gatherings and traditions. If it is your spouse, it can be especially difficult to watch the kids opening gifts without mom or dad there to witness it.
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As a follow-up to our blog about things to do to honor your military service member while he or she is gone overseas during the holidays, we wanted to also do a blog about the family members of those serving our country. Unless you have a loved one that has served in the military and gone overseas to a combat zone, then you can’t fully understand what it is like for the family members awaiting their safe return. They miss them every minute of every day. It isn’t something they have to consciously think about because it is a constant ache that they carry with them like a headache that won’t go away.
Whether or not you know how they are feeling, there are still things you can do for them. By stepping up and doing something kind for them, you are also honoring the service member and their service to our country. While they have felt a calling to serve their country, it does not ease the pain of missing their family and worrying about their well-being while they are gone.
So, what can you do? The holidays are an especially emotional time for the loved ones left behind, but they could use any of these suggestions year-round. Some spouses of military members who are left home might feel self-sufficient, not thinking that they need help. However, they might not be used to working and running the household all by themselves. Running kids around, keeping up with the laundry, cooking dinner…it can be a full-time job in and of itself. Yes, there are tons of moms or dads who do it every day while maintaining a full-time job. But, when it isn’t their daily routine, it is difficult. It takes adjustment. It’s hard. Offer to take the kids for the afternoon or bring a meal once in a while.
If the spouse that’s left behind is used to running the household, then in some ways, their daily routine may not change much. They may even be used to juggling a full-time job and being a parent and spouse. But, just not having that extra set of hands, that extra driver, that person to sit next to on the couch at the end of the night when the kids are all asleep can feel lonely and tiring. As one military wife said, “Yes, I can do it. Do I like doing it all by myself? No.” They are a team, and they are temporarily down a team member. Again, you can take them a meal or take the kids for the afternoon.
One thing to remember is that military families are usually very self-sufficient. They know how to make things work when their service member husband or wife is away, so it may look like they don’t need any help. They may not NEED it, but it sure would be a blessing to them! Maybe you could mow the lawn for them once a month or ask if there are any repairs that need to be done around the house. They probably won’t ask which is why you should.
We hope you found that helpful and will choose to reach out to a military family that you know. At Florida Moving Systems we truly respect our service members and their families and would like to thank them for their courage and sacrifices. If you are getting ready for a move, military or otherwise, please give us a call. We are located in Melbourne, FL and move families nationwide. With highly trained movers and state-of-the-art storage facilities, we know we can make your move fantastic! If you are in the Cocoa, Palm Bay, or Viera areas and need qualified movers or a storage facility, please call us today.
While it is probably nobody’s first choice to move during the cold season as opposed to another time of year, it still happens. Sometimes it is due to a job change. Sometimes it is seen as a good time to move because the kids are on a break from school. It gives the family a little time to settle in, and the kids start school when all the other kids are returning from their break. Sometimes your lease is up, and it’s time to move!